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Nita's Escape Away From It All.......My place to escape to....can I come hide in here? PLEASE!!!
This friends list is empty. February 24 Will it ever end??One thing I just cannot fathom, is WHY does my EX Wimpy Husband and his Gimpy girlfriend, continue to harass me via email?
Bad enough they called childrens services on me in December....what a nice Christmas present, eh? But to KEEP phoning them, sending me emails telling me they hope I lose custody of my son, not caring about the ramifications if that actually happened! Of course they ( DCF ) are aware of HOW they are cause they keep phoning them, telling them I am harassing THEM, have druggies at the house and let sex offenders around my child........and funny how they would know something like that from 5,000 miles away in England!
I keep getting the emails saying they are taking me to court, and how they want nothing to do with me or my son......then why the hell are they bothering ME! Go on about their lives as I am.......but with their neurotic minds they HAVE to try to intimidate me and the only form of contact he has used is email.....they have not sent anything in the mail in a long time.
His actions show no concern over our son, and he has never shown any concern for him. Though he says in an email......calling DCF SHOWS his concern. he has YET to petition the courts for his visitation, and to do the DNA testing, since he claims and KNOWS our son is not his biological child, and I slept with his brother, and he has even said my own father is my sons father, which is strange....I was living in London at the time, from Oct 2002 til Oct. 2003, so I find it kinda of hard to find my DAD as the father, as I was 3 MONTHS preggo when I came back to America!
The best emails are the ones where he states he CANNOT father children and he vehemently says so AND has proof from not ONE doctor in England, but THREE have tested him.....and then a few emails later he and his wimpy girlfriend are having a baby, then they are TRYING to have a baby!! They contradict themselves to this day.
I am just so fed up with it all....and they send the emails saying, if you think Im such a loser for a husband, father.. why would you want me around your child? Well jesus christ you idiot..... I said back .....despite HOW I feel about my EX.. he is still Taylors biological father and he should want to form a relationship with him.....our situation is not unique.. people divorce every day with one or more kids........move away across country or across continents.....if Wimpy ever cared, he would have never made the kidnapping threats, or continued this vendetta against me, all because I said I wanted to divorce him and how D ARE I break up this happy family he thought we were going to be with him never working more then 4 months ever in his whole life! I just dont know. I was conned...plain and simple......but WIMPY is still my sons father and it hurts me he is not involved, claims photos I sent are morphed to look like him.......when if he saw our son IN PERSON, FACE TO FACE.. he would see himself in my sons eyes.
I want the best for my son, and his needs are before mine.....he depends on me, and I am responsible for him. I cherish every moment with Taylor and every day he makes me laugh... sometimes mad at him getting into the same thing, different day routine.....but my son was a gift from God.....after my Mother died, I was blessed months later being pregnant......my son may not fill the void in my life where my Mother was, but he damn sure fills my heart up with his love and adds much more then the love I have had from my Mother....he is a part of her as well.. down the line....and I love Taylor and love watching him grow into this smart little almost three year old. I as his one parent can say I'm blessed to be a part of his life, every day.
February 13 Who are they to say about spanking?We have a similar law like that here in Florida, whereas you are not allowed to spank your child at all....corporal punishment they call it.
I say to THEM.... you come watch my son for a week, and you tell me how many times a day you tell him to STOP and NO and how many times you put him in time out..which is play time to my child and has not worked yet, so he sits there.
I don't beat my child, or spank him like my parents did in the 60's...slippers...a switch..a BELT across my backside or soap in the mouth for swearing!! I don't believe in spanking myself, but just like ya said...my son DID learn you cant mess with an electrical outlet and has not touched one since!
Everything else is still fair game! He has broken a window twice...til he got cut he stopped hitting glass with his toys. Scared straight I guess..in SOME areas...scared the heck out of me hearing glass shatter. he always has to make a mess with something. I don't know what it is. I am thinking about having him tested. I mean he is pretty smart for almost 3 years old, just defiant. He will look right at you and start to shred something, and you say, " Don't shred that, thats not nice to do". And he will look at you and shred, SHRED away! I call him the RIPPER at times....but gosh... reminds me of Jack the Ripper and a terrible thing to say to him!
Just now as I am typing this out.....he HAD to poke something thru the little desk fan I have on the floor blowing towards me, he found one of those plastic tie tabs from the bread and tossed it thru the metal slats on the fan. He thought that was funny cause of the noise it made. Things like that drive me crazy.........I cringe thinking he will do that to the electrical outlet.......talk about having to watch a child like a hawk......I do with my child. Trust me.
So here he sits in time out....I've already lost count for today how many times!
My son repeats the same things almost every single day and every day is in time out.
I don't tell the law makers how to do their jobs in their offices, so why the hell are they telling ME how to do mine in MY home?
Nanny Jo would have a field day here I'm sure.....you want to know something? I can't stand to watch most of those shows......reminds me of the crap I deal with every day with my son and the shows make me cringe....I put my son to sleep before the show starts at 8 PM EST...... and I cant handle the hour of that!
I love my son with all I have and here he is going to be 3 yers old soon.......I am looking into putting him into daycare.....just afraid he may get kicked out! All this and potty training too! I am a glutton for punishment......but at least he is going on the potty....he is getting more consistant with it... so I think there is SOME hope!! PRAY!!!
January 24 My Son...the shredderI have tried to figure this out and have yet been able to.
My son will be 3 in April. He has a thing for shredding things, :ie...paper, magazine pages, book pages, anything paper. Foam backing from insulation strips by the back/front door......you get the idea!
Well, yesterday he took his shredding fun to a whole new level. My one favorite pillow ( I sleep with two ) had had a slight tear in it. I had done laundry and did not place the pillow case back on it as of yet, I just put the sheets...etc on my bed.
I had sent Taylor into our room to get another Pull-Up, ( we share a room as we live with my best friend and her kids...his bed is across the room from mine ) his pull ups were where he could reach them. He came out with a Pull-Up. So ..... I later go into the bedroom to get his pyjamas ( though he strips down usually I still put clothes on him for bed ) and make my bed.
I walked into the bedroom and low and behold it looked like the FUZZ from my pillow was everywhere.. like some wild animal had attacked the damn pillow and shook what ever life it thought my pillow had had out of it!! Being we do not own any dog that could be the culptrit..........I said, " Taylor... some here for a minute son."
He comes running into the room and he stops. I am holding some of the stuffing from my pillow in my hand and asked," Taylor.....who did this? WHO ripped my pillow open more from the little hole it had to this HUGE GASH? Did you do this?"
He looked right at me and said shaking his head," No Mommy I did not do that, Anjolea did that." I said," Taylor... NO way would she do this! SHE does not shred things.. YOU do!" He looked into my eyes and said," She helped me". It was late and I was in no mood to argue over it.
I said," I am sorry but I know how you are Taylor, frmo books, to paper, to magazines... YOU shred everything and I hate to say it, but I think you did this. I don't want to talk to you til you apologize for this. If you di dnot do it.. then don't say anything to me, dont admit to something you did NOT do.........but if you did this then you need to apologize to me and say you are sorry, cause this kind of behaviour is unacceptable! I am just sad about this.. its my FAVE pillow son! Now get on up here and lay down".
For a minute there I sounded like NANNY JO! "THIS BEHAVIOUR IS UNACCEPTABLE YOUNG MAN!!!" He crawled up on my bed ( I later move him once asleep to his twin bed ) and the room was silent!
I had my back to him and I said," I'm not going to say anything, Mommy loves you son, I know its just a pillow, but you have to stop shredding things Taylor....you are almost 3 years old and you shred stuff like you are some pack rat hampster making a nest or something! You can't do this anymore! You need to behave and STOP being so destructive with everything!"
Minutes went by and all of a sudden he said, " Mommy....I ripped your pillow. Im sorry. I love you Mommy". I said, " I love you too Taylor. I thank you for admitting that. See... thats all you had to do was apologize, instead you blamed Anjolea.....she may have helped, I am not sure, but you really have to tell me if she is messing with Mommies things too. Im not MAD.. I just want you to know you cannot go about ripping things and making such a mess with it all.
I thought that was pretty intelligent of my son for apologizing. I know he was thinking on it and I am glad he MAY be learning... we shall see how long this lasts!
I was about to go
 JOAN CRAWFORD ON HIS ASS !! NO MORE SHREDDING MY FAVORITE PILLOWS...EVERRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I am glad he saw the error of his ways! It would not have been a pretty picture! LOL January 19 Oh not again!You know I will never understand my EX GIT of a husbands way of thinking at all. NEVER!
Recently he and his neurotic gimpy girlfriend have been at it again. Emailing me on my yahoo account. Not one time but 6 times in one day. He is supposed to be taking me to court. I have heard this now for over 2 years now. Nothing comes to fruition.
I was told by the Courthouse, Legal Aid and State Attorneys office that due to his being vindictive against me, never showing any concern for his child other then calling the cops to the house is not a valid act of caring about a child, that he claims he did not father, but says he has proof from his brother in England whom admits he is the father and we had some sordid affair, even though my son looks just like the EX GIT as a child ( oh.. but I morphed photos I had of him when he was a boy and super-imposed his face over that of SOME KID!...Riiiiiight, ya idiot!) and nothing like his half brother.
His attitude towards me came about when I was pregnant, I had said I was going to file for a divorce. he went ballistic. Oh after I had our son, he was acting like he was father of the year. Sent emails to his son via my email account....sent a few post cards...and soon the drama began. he was not the father of our son.....some Pakistani guy in England was and he had proof! And then more recent, his brother and he and his brother are taking me to court to prove me wrong!
Well, I have asked him for almost 3 years to come do the DNA testing! And when I asked WHY he changed his name to that of our son he had no answer. I did not name my husband as father ( though in FLA whom you are married to is considered the legal father til DNA is done )and my reason for NOT naming him on the birth certificate he knows the reason, after he made kidnapping threats before I had our son.
He demanded to know when/where I was going to have the baby and he will be there regardless of what I say....and he would take our child from me and into Europe that I would never find him OR our son and his family would see to it, NO ONE would ever find them! SO....after speaking with an Attorney a week before I had my son ( I was induced ) and with a detective I was working with, they advised I not name him at all, so it would be harder for him to obtain a passport.
A few months after our son was born, I got a call from the police, my EX claimed I left with our child..... they did not realise he was out of the country at the time. That detective called my EX GIT then to be...a loose cannon and he was not to be trusted. SO then I had to get INTERPOL involved.....and got his name flagged at ALL US entry ports. he is allowed to visit the country, he cannot extend his visit longer then the Visa Waiver allows of 90 days.
So...in Nov. '05 I was granted my divorce from him, child support was ordered. I told the Magistrate I did not understand why he changed his name to that of what I named our son... I explained why I had left his name off the birth certificate and how I did not trust him and wanted supervised visitation. I said you would think he would want to do DNA. She mentioned it was an admission of guilt right there by him changing his name in England (by deed poll I told her) and that he must have felt he was the father. I said, exactly, if I were man I would not change my name to child I did not think was mine and have to be financially responsible for! Thats when she said in FLA your spouse is considered the legal father, til DNA is done to show whom is the biological father. And being he then he has refused to do the DNA for over 18 months of my asking......he knows he is the father.
But the thing is....WHY not try to establish said relationship? He has had almost 3 years to do so......but he has been rude, combative and has this personal vendetta, the cops see it, the court sees it......which is why THEY have his visitational rights. It states, NO CONTACT with minor child..he has to complete the courts class for parenting and petition the court for visitation.
Funny, NOW he claims he wants to visit a child he says is not his and he is not interested in and has proof stating he is not the father of is beyond me! OH! I almost forgot....he has notes from not ONE doctor, but THREE that claim he CANNOT father a child. BUT he is going to make sure I lose custody of my child. A child I have supported by myself, with NO help from him. A child I make sure has his needs met before mine. I make sure my son is fed, clothed and sheltered and has his needs met, before my own. As it should be.
My EX GIT had the audacity to say when we found out I was pregnant in London...that he was afraid that my time would be centered around our child and I would not put him before our child! I about fell off of the chair I was sitting in and I actually wanted to smack him in the mouth for that comment! I asked," What do you mean by that one?" He said to me, " I am afraid that when you have the baby, you will want to do more with the baby then you will with me and spend your time with IT". I said," IT? IT is not an IT ya nut! He or SHE will be our concern together. you are worried that I am going to give more love to a baby then to you?" He said," Well, yes....". I was so dumbfounded by that comment. I did not know what to say with out him going off on me more then he had been as of late... I shut up!
I really am glad I am divorced from such a selfish, inconsiderate lazy sod of a man. It just saddens me at how he denies our child, such a beautiful boy, all because I wanted to divorce him. We are better off without him around.. and I am glad he is 5,000 miles away in the UK. I just hate how he continues this vendetta and he thinks he is hurting me in some way. When it is our son whom he is hurting by denying his existance and per his emails, he does not give a damn. I pray I can get his rights terminated, as difficult it is....I hope recent emails can assist me in that area.
I do not know why WIMPY and GIMPY continue......me thinks they need to get a life and leave us alone. Of course I have not responded to any of the emails this week.......they are not worth the effort and as I said.. Ive been waiting for 2 years for court papers from him! Time will tell if I am able to get his rights terminated....as per his emails he does not care. SO be it!
MY GUESTBOOKHELLO EVERYONE! DON'T BE SHY...SAY A HELLO AND LET ME KNOW YOU VISITED!
HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU FOR 2007!! January 18 I hate things like this!!Is it just my son, or has anyone elses child(ren) done this as well?
My son ALWAYS finds something you put up away from his reach and tries and usually succeeds in openeing what ever it is he is not supposed to have right before I get to him!
Take for instance, can Air freshener. To HIM, it is HAIR SPRAY!!! I said," No son, it is NOT...look, there are flowers on it! On our hair spray...there aren't." He will say," Yes there IS..." And damned if there aren't some flowers on the damn outside of it!
Look at this:
 and this: ...WE can tell what it is as we can read.. but to a child they look the same. And this as well... my son found this in the house:
 and he found this my roommates kids left laying on the desk after using it: SO the only difference to HIM is the cap!! He found the Neosporin and was about to use it as lip gloss as he called it!! You have to be SO careful with kids in general......my son thought THIS was toothpaste one day he saw the commercial for it!
 And I said NO Taylor...THIS is TOOTHPASTE  . He said to me...." Mommy it is the same thing!!! Boxes!" How could I argue...he was right.He got me....so I told him, the boxes may LOOK the same, but what is inside the boxes and tubes of stuff is very different and used for different things! I'll say!! Imagine waking up half out of it and using Preporation H on your toothbrush instead of Crest!! Ewwwwww!!So when I find things that look alike and are different items...I let him know. he LOVES looking at the sales advertisements from the stores each week we get in the mail... I show him that way the different things and whilst in the grocery store when we go shopping.
Anyone remember watching the movie 9 to 5 with Jane Fonda and Dolly Parton? They were in the office kitchen and Lily Tomlins characte,Violet, thought she killed the boss...cause she put Rat poison into the bosses coffee cup....and the box looked like SKINNY AND SWEET!!! She said," Well it looked just like Skinny and Sweet...except for the little rat and crossbones on the sides of the box!"
I SO wished I had a picture of the boxes of Skinny and Sweet sugar and the RID-O-Rat!! I found a quote though from the movie..
Violet: Oh, God. They know about the rat poison. I might as well just turn myself in.
Doralee: Violet, it was an accident. Violet: I'm a murderer. Judy: No, you're not. Violet: I'm a murderess. I'm gonna go to the pen. My poor kids. I'm gonna lose my job. Judy: Violet, stop this. Violet: I'm no fool. I've killed the boss, you think they're not gonna fire me for a thing like that? Thats it from my end.......enough of my ranting for one day!
January 17 Mr. LandlordI do not understand the landlord we have at all. I don't think he has ever watched TLC'S 'FLIP THAT HOUSE' or ANY home re-do home. From the money he claims to have spent, I just don't see it except for a new roof, as they are not cheap. I shouldn't doubt what he said he had spent.....but clearly....the termites are still eating away at the house, the new carpet he had put down is not durable, and the floors lean on both sides of the house.
We live in a duplex.....built in 1940. The house next door is identical but its downstairs is a bit bigger and used in a more efficient way. And THEY have upstairs as well, we just have the downstairs here and there is an apartment upstairs from us.
Over a year ago, our new landlord was in the process of 'renovating' this house. New paint outside, though the man he got the house from had just painted it 5 months earlier, he did not like the brownish color, so he paints it this god awful green...almost LINDA BLAIR-ISH from the EXORCIST. Ok.. a new roof they did right...no more leaky roof upstairs and downstairs here in our living room.
They were going to work 'around us', but his THEN workers were so incompetent, I am still not over the crap from a year ago. The landlord had these guys come in to scrape off the old 'popcorn' ceiling in all the rooms, and was having them repaint the house. They did such a shit job, covering up what furniture we had had in here in one bedroom, he said, "I am going to put you up in a hotel." Well.....we damn sure couldnt get into the bedroom after several hours of their fucking up the in bathroom and back bedroom......so my roommates BOSS paid for the first night of 30 days in hotels in and around town!!
So....we gather up what we needed, thinking we would only be in a hotel a day or so. Mind you...this was in 2005....3 days after Christmas.....and the workers, whom from what I saw farted about and I think he found on a freaking corner as after not paying them right the first time, they did not care and fucked up quite a bit of our things in the house from not covering furniture correctly.
We stayed in 5 hotels furing that month. The first one was Extended stay..which was great with its little kitchen area, stove..fridge, microwave.....then we were at the airports Red Roof Inn.. which was no different then the old DAYS INN...and our FAVE hotel was RESIDENCE INN AT MARRIOTT!! We had a 2 bedroom hotel room...two baths...nice kitchen and even had a dining room table that seated 4 and 3 big 27 inch tvs.....my son loved that place and now and then asks to go back to it! Yes, it was nice... smaller then here, but I guess it was the tub he liked.. though our tub is new....he liked going for the free dinner every night and breakfasts! I bet Mr. Landlord did not like paying the $170 a
night for it! We were there for over 2 weeks.
I say if he had had competent workers on this house everything would have been done in NO time........jesus.. they can build a new home in no time nowadays. Though it IS best if you have a concrete slab to let it set a few months, so later you wont have to worry about slab leaks/cracks. But really.....he took out the old carpet here.. and did not refinish the floors under, so he covered the wood with carpet....crappy carpet....painted the walls....did not use a primer first....and used shitty flat paint....over the already matte finish......he should have used a gloss of some sort so it would be easier to clean!
They put down a cermaic tile in the kitchen and in the bathroom....almost every tile had cracked in the kitchen. Now he KNEW the kitchen floor...as well as the living room floor leading into the kitchen....LEANS to the right...the floor under is uneven.....same as in the bathroom........so Mr. Landlord knowing all of this....puts tiles down... we did not walk on that for over 15 hours..it sets in 12 and so months later.......he has them take up the tile and he has some guys build a sub floor on top of the other floor......AND THAT FLOOR LEANS TO THE RIGHT LIKE THE REAL FLOOR UNDER IT!! They did nothing to correct the LEANING part!! AND now standing 4 or so inches above the sink.. I feel like a fucking AMAZON woman doing the dishes!
I am 5 foot 8 inches tall......if I was 5 foot tall it would be great and the perfect height for me to do the dishes!! I hate standing over it all! Well I shouldnt complain as those exta 4 inches of new flooring has given me the height to reach the top shelf in the cabinet over the sink!
Mr. Landlord has known of another problem area.....the termites have been eating away at the house since before he acquired the house.....I told him...to his face it was a money pit type of a house....cause the roof upstairs would leak... they had plumbing trouble upstairs and water would leak down from their bath down our bathroom walls...and floor......no shit.. it did that every few months.. and you can see on our walls which are about 10-12 feet in height in every room....the paint bubbled up.. filling with water. From outside the house...on the left side of the duplex you can clearly see where the water damage from the roof ( he DID put a new roof on ) has made the wood outside bow inwards.
And our tub did not drain properly.....it drained from the pipes to under the house.....the other landlord had to come out to re-enforce the flooringunder the tub, though the tile work has worn away as the tile there never set....we even let it set for over 12 hours....only taking baths...and the wall tiles and surrounding border tiles have all come loose. He has seen all that and nothing has been done, we are still waiting for the repair guy to come back. Five months later and nothing!
Hell, if I onwed this place ( and had the money as well ) I would rehab the whole place...upstairs and down and make it into one residence like the house next door......and have some extreme make over people come re-do it...RIGHT!
So much for FLIPPINIG THIS HOUSE....AND PIMPING YO HOUSE! This landlord...as handsome as he is....and a gorgeous black man.....I still think he was born blonde.
Odd WeatherI have to say that here in the states we have been having some terrible weather.
I lived in Ohio ( CINCINNATI ) for 5 years from 1980-85 and we had some really cold temps below zero many times, and I hated to drive in the snow. And hated icy roads. We once we snowed in for almost a week...had power but little heat as the landlord just did not give a damn and my Mom and I bundled up and my sister from came up from Florida days before for her vacation, did not get much of a two week vacation, as one week we literally were snowed in for several days.
We were bundled up in the apartment, wearing thermals under clothes and walking about the place bundled up in freaking blankets, drinking the hell out of coffee, hot teas and hot chocolate! Good thing we had gone to the store before the storm. Our apartment was up on a hill...we watched a neighbors car slide down the driveway onto the busy street of Harrison Ave...literally he slid all the way down the drive to the street and thank GOD he did not hit any cars as he decended down the driveway into oncoming traffic!
I worked as a temp in the Carew Tower for IBM computers...stuffing envelopes....me and this nice black girl. She had to take the bus to work as well. Well....I was scared as hell on the way to work one morning, our bus went up over the curb, on the viaduct onto the sidewalk!!! I thought for sure we were gonna slide over the railings down to the rail yard below! OR dangle there in midair, halfway on and off! Jesus Christ I was scared as hell! I think I had smoked a pack of cigarettes and drank 20 cups of coffee once at work!! I was glad the bus missed the light poles and all that...but shit.. I was scared!
I feel bad for all of the people in the midwest and out west whom are dealing with all these ice storms they are having, and being without power and all that. When Hurricane Jeanne came thru Florida....we were without power for 13 hours that September, power outages were various around town...my Dad said he lost power for a few minutes. But at his other home in the country..they had alot of tree limbs down...pine straw everywhere.
Right now in Jacksonville.....we are to have highs in the 50's and 60's this week....the other day it was 79 degrees..and the highs next week are to be about the same as this!
I hope all of you in Texas and out west are doing OK.....I will keep all of you in my prayers and I pray this weather changes and warms up soon. I send all of you rays of  sunshine to brighten your dreary days... .......take care!January 16 Good Riddance !!Well I've gone and done it. I suppose it should have been done some time ago....but my being the insecure person I am at times....I let it go on and on and on..
I emailed my...BLAST FROM MY PAST...and I blew his ass right out of the water! FUCK IT is what I say!
I wrote him an email and I left out the part where I was sure we had not seen each other more then 8-10 times in the months we had dated....I know was no more then 5-6 months of seeing each other.
I said....he claimed he wanted to re-kindle the flame we had once had... and I wanted to piss on the flame! YES.. I actually typed that in the email to him!
I of course have not heard from him since the 21st of Dec. where that email had stated he wanted to know a day I could be available to see him.....and I said in my email to him.....I dont think I will hear from you again which is fine by me.. I would think after 3 yrs now I would have seen you by now.. but I havent... and dont intend to....I can change my number which is all you have.
So now thats done and over with.......just dont understand WHY he thought he was perhaps getting back at me for how I was to him... when I damn well know I had siad I did not want to see him as much.. maybe in not so many words...but Christ.. my mother was sick..he was not as available as he must have thought he was... not like I could have called his HOUSE any time..I was always told to use that CELL PHONE for a point of contacting him and then the day after or so he would answer....so he said he was there for me? NOT!
I knew he was not as separated from his wife as he had claimed and regardless of whether or not he lived with her..she would still get his BAQ form the NAVY...I guess he forgot I had dated a navy guy before and I know some of the ins and outs with divorcing while in the Navy... and to stay for the sake of kids.......is bullshit....his kids were in high school not preschool aged! Not like they couldn't handle Daddy moving out. I was wrong I suppose.
One thing I have yet to figure out is, from the times we had been together....and not an every day thing...even speaking on the phone/emailing was not an every day thing....but an every few days thing......HOW can a guy at his age 'fall' for me as he claimed in one email to me recently that when we dated he fell for me and asked if I thought he MAY have been in love with me... I mean, WHY didnt he speak up when we were seeing each other? As I said I know we did not date for more then 6 months. I liked him then, though not IN LOVE with him. I just cannot believ e he fell for me in such a way in his emails he is making me feel guilty for that.
Like I said I DID tell him I was not wanting to see him anymore, I had so much on my plate at the time with my Mother....and in retrospect, I would say the same to him.
I am better off without him.......I feel he led me on in the very beginning....telling me things I wanted to hear from him....I did not believe most of it...being he NEVER called me..and the excuse he gave was lame.....a girl he dated gave his home number to another friend and they harassed him all hours of the night. I said call from a payphone if he did not want me to have his number....he as I said never did. Fair enough.
I found him on a dating site recently...he had viewed MY profile! What a lame ass..it has my pic on there.... he could clearly see it was ME in the pic, he did NOT have to VIEW my profile!!! As it was the same photo I had sent him last year! What a dork!
Can you wait a minute???So here I am sitting here minding my own blog.....and I heard a knock at the front door. I yelled, as our living room is in the middle of the duplex we live in......the house is like 30 wide by 80 long.. we are downstairs. I know no one knocked on the door next door as that flat is vacant.
So I get up and start walking down the hall and the door opens. I am thinking it is one of the roommates kids..and here it was RAY...the Mr. Landlords EX Electrician. He started to come in further and I said...." CB is half naked in the bathroom". So he stops and goes, " Oh Oh.. OK.....is Lee here?" I said..." No.. she is over at her boyfriends." He said," Ahh Ok... so I see the LL ( Land lord ) is going to rent out upstairs..I came by to get his number and I see it is on the sign." I was about to say," Well Jesus Christ, why the hell did you just walk on in like ya own the place! I SAID....just a minute.......not COMING..... which I tell everyone NOT to say cause from in here it sounds like.. COME IN!!
I said to my Jamaican friend..." Theres your sign Ray!" Now if I did not like the man.. I would have been more pissed off.... I am glad I was dressed.....though I usually am dressed by 8-9 am.......I just did not have my bra on and EVERY TIME he is here.... of course he looks at the twins......YES I know I have BAZOOKAS honey.. but please.. stop eyeing them!
I don't like going up to the conveinience store anymore cause Chris always stares at the twins and is SO obvious about it.... married or not... I am a little creeped out, not cause he kinda has a lazy eye and I cant tell which boob he is eyeing....... Chris is cool as hell...but sheesh...there sure are alot of BOOB men out there! I may like mens dicks but I damn sure don't try to stare at their crotches to see what may lie beneath!! ALOT is left to the imagination....I just dont get it.......unless the men are without pants! Like that should ever be allowed!! how can WE stare at what they got?
Alot of guys wear those baggy assed jeans/shorts below their waists. So so much for looking at their asses! Not that I'M LQQKING! January 15 I have to admit it......I have to admit something.... I really REALLY miss living in England. Oh my one friend says to move back if I miss it so much.....and another says being my sons father is British and a citizen, my son had the right to abode there....though he lives in Scotland, it would not be far enough away for me. My son and I can possibly live in the UK......though like here I would have to support us, the cost of renting is so outrageous in some parts of the UK...its about like here I suppose, but lord...if I had the money I'd be there. I miss the history of the country, the Black Forest...Wiltshire countryside and Somerset....Brighton where family lives near the beaches and LONDON!
I did it one time before, but now I have a child to think about not just myself and it may not be impossible, but I would like to take him over to the UK, so he can see where his Great Grandfather gave morning services at St. Pauls Cathedral, as he was a Very Reverend in the Church of England. He also was in Suffolk county I believe and had his own little church there where he preached on Sundays.
I do know he gave sermons at West Minster Abbey in London in the past, had invites to Buckingham Palace, as I have one where the QUEEN herself invited him to Buckingham Palace for brunch one Sunday, and I have several written responses from the Archbishop of Canterbury and others.
A known fact is my son is a distant cousin to Robert Burns, yes the poet whom penned Auld Lang Syne. His website can be found here: http://www.robertburns.org/. Family still lives in Scotland and on my Ex husbands mothers side is how he is related. ONE thing my EX did not lie about regarding his family!
I hope to take my son the the UK to visit in a few years when he will be old enough to enjoy and recall his visit. I would love to move back over there, and perhaps one day we will have that opportunity to do so. I would love for my son the see the only country I ever wanted to visit and live in and fortunate to do so for a year.....And for him to experience the history of the country and explore his English heritage.
I should hope to win the Florida lottery! Yeah, along with the other 18 + million people in the state I'm sure!
I would buy a lovely country home in the english countryside in England.....with a bit of land to have my own garden and grow our own food/flowers... and enjoy the small village life outside Londons city limits........so LQQK out STING AND MADONNA!
January 05 Shop til you drop.....I never understood my EX Git of a husband at all. EVERY DAY he had to go to the shopping centres. I made the mistake of giving him some of my money which I brought over to hold onto. We had a used car the 2nd week there, cause he could not go look for work now without one.
But every single day he had to go to the shops. He really pissed me off when we got the car. he went to the mall, bought an X-Box or Game Cube, one of those systems and some games along with MOBILE PHONES and claimed he was going to advertise it and sell it for profit! Little did I know, this is all he did during his first marriage to a woman out west is that. From video cameras to computers, game systems.....he would buy them, sometimes take them back within the 14 days if he couldnt sell what ever it was.
Most stores in the area were tired of him bringing back everything, so he would DRIVE to a place further away to drop it off at another store location. He tried to get me to do the same things for him and I refused. I said, "You know we are strapped for cash and you went out and bought this stupid shit, so we are stuck with it.......and being you refuse to look for a job in your home country and did not want to work in the states....as you claimed you would have a job within two weeks here....two MONTHS have passed and this is all you do! Im not being a part of that."
And I am NOT exaggerating when I say he went to the shops every day! He would buy clothes, take them back, shoes, and take them back.......I swear I was married to a woman trapped inside a thin mans body. He would drive 45 minutes to go return a phone to ORANGE......or T-Mobiles shop....I was so tired of it. My Family and friends counted that we had had over 14 phone numbers for a cell phone in 6 months time!!!
When we would go to the grocery store, whether it be Tescos, Sainsburys, ASDA-Walmart.....we would be shopping and he would dilly dally....and it would take us longer if his Mum came along as she would eye everything, and with her dementia she couldnt remember what certain foods were, and shout at you if you said, "Mum.. that is NOT yogurt in that container you are holding... but heavy cream".....she would say," SHUT UP.. you dont know! It IS Yogurt I know what I am doing!!". It got to the point, I had to tell her everything had MEAT in it........she was vegetarian and would never EVER NEVER touch anything with MEAT in it...so then everything had meat in it when she picked up weird stuff....I HATED to lie...I mean to walk about every isle with her and telling her it all had some meat in it. I would say," Mum you are vegetarian....you need more fruits and that". I mean she would pick up something like a box of brown sugar. I would say, " What are you going to use that for? Its BROWN sugar..you cant put it in your Earl Grey Tea....it would taste funny. It has meat in it! Says so here on the side!" She would glare at me and say," What do you know!"
I hated to lie, but when she caused a scene in the shops, she would be like HIM.... her psycho (man-child) son!!!
Guess what.... she would remember some things, and she actually went to the shops down the street, and she would buy weird crap....and she came home one time with a box of Brown Sugar.....and put it in her tea! UGH!!! I ussed to catch her eating cereal with like 8 big spoonfuls of sugar. Doctors said her taste buds are way off.......no shit! She thinks Brown Sugar has meat in it! Just kidding.. I did not say that...... It was hard to get her to eat FOOD......her dear beloved man child son would sneak liver and onions and mushrooms to her....if HE cooked it.......god forbid I cook anything in the kitchen as she just cleaned the kitchen she would say! HOURS later but non the less her sense of time was way off about like her taste buds!
She would walk to the shops.....81 yrs old....god forbid we stop her even in inclement weather.......adn she would buy bags of candy...a jar of peanut butter, biscuits, pasteries... and eat it all within a few days.
So there I am walking along with Mum..mainly making sure she did not nick anything ( STEAL ) from the shelves and stash it in her coat pockets or purse.....while her beloved fucked up son was walking about the store like a chicken with its head cut off ...in the ELECTRONICS departments of said stores! He was giddy like a fucking child when he bought something. I kid you people not! I was so sick of it all.....I swear I caught him skipping a time or two...the lazy SOD!
People would look at me like I was some stranger...HELLO YOU ESSEX INBRED SLUT, whom you clearly look 50+ old and dressing like a 20 yr old sorority girl.... she HAS dementia.. Im her daughter in law from AMERICA....people do marry outside their families in the USA! I used to get such mean looks.....but then it was later I found out, my Mum whom was giving people the evil eye for looking her way! I mean Mum, bless her would stare people down and Im glad looks did not kill.. cause with Anne about.. she would have cleared out the whole fucking store with her stares!!!! BUYERS BEWARE!!
Well, on the occassions, Mum was doing her on thang....like at the senior centre....the EX GIT and I would go shopping......and here we are in the shops........and I am a joker.. I like to have a laugh... he KNOWS my personality as well as I know his......but I would make a comment about, " Hey..how 'bout some fresh fruit here...." His answer," Can't afford it". I said," Yes we can..just don't buy more stupid crap that you buy and have to waste the petrol on taking it back within the 14 days.. we would be eating great then!!! But you have to buy that stupid shit......every week...Lets just get some fresh veggies and that fruit". Guess what he does....he shoves the grocery cart at me and strarts yelling at me...." We cant afford to buy what YOU want". I said,' YEAH cause YOU buy toys that are for kids and try to sell them for a profit that YOU never make back and have to take it all back!!!! I think we need to eat FOOD instead of buying stupid crap with MY money, since YOU are a lazy sod whom wont work at 44 yrs of age!!
So there we are......a cart of groceries and he walks out on me.......I said to people around" I am SO tired of him embarassing me like this in the stores....he does this like once a month and we have to go shop at another store later". I make him go by himself. Christ all I asked for was some Imperial mints which were like 75 cents our money and some fresh veggies!!
That was like an every day event with him......its no wonder why I hate shopping now! We were at Lakeside Mall one time.. and he wanted to go to his shops and I said, " Well I want to go to the book store" ..meet me there". He said, "Why not come with me like a wife should do and then we will go to your store?" I said," Cause YOU spend too much time in the stupid kids shop, having to BUY SOMETHING all the time, I can look at books and not buy! See.. I dont HAVE to buy any fucking thing!" He got pissed off! I was ready for it.....here we are on the upper level, I was about to get on the escalator.......I said.. " Dont embarass me, OR you might have an accident and fall down these stairs!" I laughed and he said," Fuck you. I asked you to come to the shops with me, be a wife and hold my hand in the shops.....stay with me by my side like a wife should with her husband and you cant do that!" I said," Oh no you didnt! I am not some DOG whom has to stay by her masters side you idiot.. If you want a dog to OBEY your lame sodding ass, go buy one.. NO woman is going to want to walk with a man in a freaking mall whom only shops for what he wants and buys it and after 8 months you have never bought me one fucking thing.. so YOU go onto to your shops.. if we were in the states Id have a gun in my purse and Id change your ass from a rooster to a hen real quick! STOP embarassing me! I will meet you at the car!"
He said," Fuck you...." I said, " NO YOU are fucked.. not getting your way! GROW UP!!".........and a guy said," Looks like that bloke needs a pint! " I said," No my so called HUSBAND forgot to take his mental health medication today and this is what happens in public and I stand here looking like a fool when HIS 42 yr old ASS walks OFF! JERKOFF!
I needless to say waited outside by the car......it started to rain...........its a big enough umbrella but its always me that ends up getting wet! Yeah, thanks Sting!
Oh he got on JSA ( Job Seekers Allowance ) where they pay you to find work.....which he lied and said he was looking and he only got a few checks from them. When I left him he got carers allowance for taking care of his Mum, and he could live off of $60 per money easy.. as he was such the flake.. we never spent more then $50 a week for food for all 3 of us.
So as it stands, I HATE canned food........I dont care what it is! He'd buy tons of tins and a few slices of steak...mushrooms, onions........Thanks to him I cant stand it.. I gotta have fresh veggies and the like. Ok.. I still like my southern Baked Beans......but thats about it. I HATE him! I REALLY want to bitch slap his neurotic head upside the wall! Like that one song used to say.. Whoops upside the head, I said whoops upside your head!
I so hope he is dumb enough to show up at my door... I want to knock his english dick into to dirt SO bad...along with his gimpy girlfriend.... I call them....WIMPY and GIMPY! A fitting name for them both!
A rant about the EX-GitI sit back and think about how it was living with the EX-Git of a husband I had when I moved from the states over to England. I damn sure don't miss HIM.....though I fell in love with the only country I had ever wanted to see first and I miss England.
My then husband used to wake up in the middle of the night, from a sleep and scream and shout at me. I can't for the life of me recall everything, but he was beligerant, and he once flipped me out of the bed by picking up the mattress, and me not being a skinny minnie ( Im built more like Rosie O'Donnell ) he actually flipped me out of the mattress and had his fist at my face. I'm half out of it, and I said to him," You hit me in my face, I will cut your dick off and go one step further theh Lorena Bobbitt ever did and shove it so far down your throat, you won't dare fuck with anyone you fucking ass! NO man hits a woman and gets by with it pansy ass!"
All of a sudden he "WAKES" up and then moves away from me...and Im on the concrete floor of this flat and he SNAPS OUT OF IT!! WHat pissed my fat ass off was he acted like he did not remember anything. I said," Oh Bullshit! Don't play stupid with me cause you know damn well I would cut what little dick you have and cram it down your throat! FUNNY how you THEN wake up after 5 minutes of screaming and yelling at me! You need help man!"
I was so shook up from that, I walked, in the freezing rain and cold up to a phone box there in Poole and called a friend first to calm down and then the EX-Git comes walking up. HIS sorry ass didnt walk all the way.. he drove anad parked down the street. Lazy ass. If I werent so cold and wet from the rain I would have walked back myself...I told him I was not staying with him and my Dad said he would pay for me a place til I could get a flight out.......he apologized and still claimed he did not recall what he had said... or was dreaming about.
He did this several times.....twice when we lived in London at his Mums flat....I had to tell the neighbours he had stopped taking medicine....bad enough I married some freak whom wouldnt even take an aspirin for a toothache or headache! I would say, fine with me.. suffer then!
He was afraid of mosquitos, and anything that flew. I mean TERRIFIED they would all attack him and leave welts all over him and stuff. I'd say" You are 40 something years old, they are just flying mosquitos!" He'd say," Yeah but they carry malaria", I said," SO your cows in the UK had mad cow disease!, we eat BEEF now, do we not!"
He looked like some gay male ballerina swatting at every single incect we had in the bedroom that flew in from the window and he would smash them with his shoes, go get a chair and stand on it if he couldnt reach the big MOZZIES as Australians cal | ||||||||||||||||||||||
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